Parents- Family Forever?

Family ties it is said are permanent... They are things that will remain with you for life... Well biologically it may be true for I will always carry the genes of my parents in my blood which will identify me as their son no matter where and in what condition I am...
However, as we move on in life the definition of family changes... Once we get out of home into hostel life to get a stamp of a degree on our CVs our friends become family and suddenly you don't miss your original family anymore...
And things completely change when you fall in love... As fun and games start developing into a serious relationship your world is centred around that one person... You forget your parents, brothers, sisters, uncles, aunts, friends and at the first instance start running towards that one person that you have hardly known for a month or two...
And suddenly one day she asks you this question " Ani... What if there's a situation where we are captured by millitants and they give you a choice... Either they shoot your mom or they shoot me... What will you choose?" And then you are stuck in a rut... You know if you choose her to e shot you are in trouble and if you choose your mom to be shot ,well, she won't believe you for the life of it!! But as you move on and you are asked this question a couple of times more in the midst of a romantic conversation you think to yourself "Hang on.. What would you really do??" Choose your mom- the woman who has loved you, given you all that has got you so far, supported you, encouraged you and in general done so much for you in your 20 odd yr old life- to be killed... Or will you choose the girl whom you have known for a few months, who would probably give your beloved mom a tough time your potential marriage becomes a reality... At first you would think wat a dumb question... Of course you will want your mom to live... You know that your lady love would choose her dad to live in a similar situation...
But then once you ask yourself what your dad will do in a similar situation given a choice between his wife and mom your answer becomes clear... Of course you ll choose your wife/ would be wife... Isn't it the right thing considering that she has the right to be the No.1 priority in your life if you want the right be her husband ??
Once this perspective is clear your life changes... A lot of priorities change... Your parents take a back seat and your wife/would be wife is the centre of your life now...
And as you ask yourself this question at various stages of your life- when you become a father/mother , when both your children are married and out of the house, when you are a widow/widower, untill the day you die you will find that the answer is not always constant... It won't change often.. But the day it changes you know that something has changed in your life